Half of all pregnancies in America are unplanned. Many of these women feel scared and alone with no support or anyone to turn to. Read this story from a young girl who experienced this:
“I was an active member at my church, and I knew that they would look down on me no matter what choice I made, and I was right. My church wanted to send me to another church, a place full of strangers to help me through the pregnancy. With no support, I became afraid.
I wanted to keep it, but they didn’t support me, nor did my family, especially my father.
My dad printed out all sorts of things for me to look at: the expenses of a child and the places mothers without homes end up and stuff of that nature. He would talk behind my back, and I would hear it through the grapevine.
“That’s not my daughter, if she has it, I will disown her and it.”
I went to my aunt, who told me that she had had an abortion earlier in her life. I was shocked to hear this. She told me that she would support me either way, but she wanted to show me something.
She brought me to her friend’s home, a woman with 3 kids and no support. She told me how miserable my life would be if I kept it.
I went on to find out that a friend of mine was also pregnant. She was in the same week that I was in, 12 weeks. She went on to have her child. I did not.
Not feeling like I had support, I became afraid and ran away the day that my parents scheduled the abortion. This made my father furious. He wanted to kill my boyfriend. I was afraid for him.
I felt that the child would have brought pain, misery, anger, and expulsion from my family, so I went through with it. I was not mentally there when I made the choice. I feel like another part of me went there and went through everything for me. It was like I was watching a part of my life.
After I woke up, I saw that the nurse had carelessly left the chart of the before and after ultrasound. I wanted to die after I saw that. My aunt told me that I saved my father a trip from going to jail.
It has been 5 years, and I live in regret. It’s hard watching my friend’s child knowing that mine would have been the same age as him. It’s like watching my child growing up, but I know he’s not here. Because I allowed my fear to kill my child. I think about it every day. My father always says “I can’t believe you are still upset about that,” and that hurts more. When I do have children, I don’t want them to have anything to do with him because I am still so hurt, and he always reopens that wound that I have.”
What if this girl would have had just one person to support and help her? What if she had just one person who tried to help and persuade her? Maybe then things might have turned out differently for her and her child. This is why it is so important that we support women who face situations such as hers-you never know when you could be the one to prevent a woman from having an abortion.
Offer your support and love and, if you can, money. Refer her to a pregnancy center near you (you cand find one here). Pray for and with her. Be sure she knows the facts about abortion. Do whatever you can to show your support for her.